As parents, you can always work out the details of custody and visitation. But even when the parties agree, the court will review the arrangement to ensure that it’s in the best interests of the child and that there has been no coercion, intimidation, or undue influence.
If you can’t agree on the terms of custody, the court will hold a hearing and make the determination for you. The prevailing standard guiding the court’s decision will be the best interests of the children. When making its decision, the court will rule on both physical and legal custody. What is the difference between these two concepts? What additional factors will the court consider? What can you reasonably expect?
Physical custody refers to the actual domicile or residence of the child, i.e., where the child will actually live and call home. In the traditional custody arrangement, the parent with primary custody is referred to as the “custodial” parent. The other parent typically gets “visitation,” usually every other weekend, alternating holidays, and often for some period during summer vacation.
Courts used to observe what is known as the “tender years” doctrine or the “maternal preference” when determining physical custody. Under that approach, a mother is held to be biologically more capable of providing a nurturing environment, and therefore, by default, it is in the child’s best interests to grant physical custody to the mother, particularly for younger children.
That principle has been successfully challenged in states across the country over the past half century, even more so in the past decade, as many state legislatures have passed laws encouraging more equality in physical custody arrangements. Accordingly, it’s now more common for courts to grant joint physical custody, with the child spending alternating weeks with each parent or under a similar arrangement.
Regardless of the allocation of time with each parent, courts always seek to promote situations where the child has meaningful time with each parent. In rare situations, where there are concerns about the safety of the child, a court may require supervised visitation.
Legal custody refers to a parent’s right to participate in decisions affecting the health and welfare of the child, such as the child’s medical care, education, religious training, and extracurricular activities. The preference among courts across the country is to grant joint legal custody, so that both parents have a say in their child’s upbringing.
Though the particular criteria for granting custody vary from state to state, the overriding concern is always the “best interests of the child.” Factors used to determine the best interests include the following: